Happy 30th, Joya

There are friends with whom the days pass and the years fly and the states in which you reside get further apart... and the missing each other becomes palpable. But then, there are quiet moments on the couch with Palace on the ears and that friend in the gchat...

me: how does 30 feel?
joy: I feel good. Feel like I'm right in the spot I should be/want to be.
at least right now... things are really good.
me: yay. so so happy to hear that.
joy: 30s are gonna be good!
me: 20s are practice years. 30s are implementation years.
joy: oo, I like that.
me: yep. i'm trying to make a few more mistakes in these last practice years.
joy: just don't let it get too messy
me: naw, more like poor clothing purchases and bad lifestyle choices. you know, too much champagne and such.
joy: that is more than okay!
me: and you? any 30s resolutions>
joy: don't get drunk and drunk-dial/email... as often
joy: mostly just want to continue to follow the bliss, ya know.
be open to the abundance of the universe and all that good stuff

So, on this, (two days after) your 30th birthday, I send my love to you, Joya.

Love,
JB

Social Norms

I'm working on a training and am googling images to illustrate harmful social norms.

Like this one:

male entitlement anyone?

Glee kids on alcohol : Jessie Spano caffeine pills

I'll leave you with this final thought of the evening.. a little SATs for the pop culture junkies.

TheNewPornos

You should be reading whatever Ann Friedman writes. Including, but not limited to, this: Neko Case Can't Get Laid!

Also, how excited are you about The New Pornographers coming to #Como? I love them. I'm not afraid to scream it from the rooftops. But I'll only do so if Neko is present.

I totally had a job first. And a house for that matter.



Isn't it interesting the comments for this video are mostly saying that women are dumb, that this 5 year old is smarter than most women, and that she'll be sleeping with everyone when she turns 16? Of course, the other half of the comments were about wanting this set to autotune, which I wholeheartedly agree with.

Cellphone Use Tied to Changes in Brain Activity

“Unfortunately this particular study does not enlighten us in terms of whether this is detrimental or if it could even be beneficial,” Dr. Volkow said. “It just tells us that even though these are weak signals, the human brain is activated by them.”

I'm going to pretend that the color change on the brain scan is just my ears working harder.

Via New York Times.

sartorialist

i'll be trying my hand at some new things this year... and i may have to learn to spell sartorialist in the process.

these new things include blogging, photographing stuff and talking to strangers. stay tuned.

Blue Valentine

I can already tell I'm going to be destroyed after watching this film.

...or hipsters will kill you

Best of...

I'm not saying we're the best at everything, but we are clearly the best at throwing weddings...

Our photographers, Hawes Photography, were amazing and you can check out their blog here. They are running a Best of 2010 series. Ch-ch-check it out.

#tf11

My tickets are reserved, my naps are scheduled, my snack packs are ready, my outfits are chosen...

let's go true/false.

If this isn't what you are doing to celebrate my birthday, we aren't friends.

T/F

Common Ground

After an afternoon meeting south of the City of Jefferson, I continued on to Warsaw, MO to try a restaurant my co-worker had been raving about. The Common Ground Cafe. I love driving into small towns to explore their shops and restaurants. They have the best stuff. There is something so charming about small-town Missour-ah. I had a tasty salad with the most fabulous fresh bread. And their house tea... oh the house tea. It was as though I'd drank the proverbial kool-aid.

The nice folks who run the cafe and bakery live in community. While I may not agree with some (any) of the proprietors' beliefs, I am fascinated by them. I'd like to lecture them on their treatment of women, and their views of people of color and the LGBT community... but I'll eat their delicious food. And enjoy their fine furniture.

I mean, just read about it:

Having acquired the old “Osage Hotel” downtown, we desired to create a unique social atmosphere for the people of this region. Combining ageless beauty and artisanship with warm hospitality and a place for friends to meet, we opened a “Common Ground Café” on Main Street along the Osage River in mid-2008. We now offer breakfast dishes, wholesome sandwiches made with fresh breads, and lively salads all made from scratch, as well as smoothies, yerba maté and many other tasty drinks. Evenings herald a special dinner. The second floor of the café, where we host meetings for various groups, presents an exhilarating view of the lake and harbor.

We also have a reputable wood shop where we undertake many types of woodworking jobs. We design and fabricate hickory furniture in our business called Ozark Rustic. The other branch, Heartwood Design, builds custom cabinets, countertops, and staircases, just to name a few.

Don't you want to go? You can visit, just don't drink the house tea...

Ride a Bike

It pains me that I work 30 miles from home and cannot ride a bike to work.

Via.

Struggling

I've been struggling with work lately. Trying to figure out what you want to do for the rest of your life is not easy. Yes, I know no one has a "forever-job" anymore. My dad worked his way up in a company for 38 years, and I know that won't be my path.

I'm trying to reconcile fun and responsibility. Turning down a fabulous job opportunity out of state because it wasn't financially responsible was a low point, and bullshit.

So, until I figure out my next move, I'll be taking the way of Ghandi and try to be present.

Ugh. I totes can't do this:

Via.

PR

p: you could never be on project runway.
me: why?
p: they work until midnight! you would be asleep on the table at 9:30.
me: that's true. and, i can't sew.

she who holds the netflix...

password holds the power.

"did you bump all of my dexter for 'Machete'?"

marriage lesson #1

don't coax your partner into bed with the promise of watching 30 rock
but then show them this...

MARCEL THE SHELL WITH SHOES ON from Dean Fleischer-Camp on Vimeo.

10 months wed

We did everything backwards:
Start dating.
Move out of state together.
Move back home.
Get grown-up job.
Buy house.
Get dog.
Put a ring on it.
Wed.
Continue to be wed for 10 months.
Neighbor's car explodes (not our fault).